How do distant ancestors influence life and destiny?
Psychogenealogy will help to understand exactly how the events that have occurred in the lives of other generations of the family affect our destiny.
Everything that happens in our life today can be predetermined by the events that happened in our family several generations before we were born. This idea came to Ann Anselin Schutzenberger in the 70s of the last century: she worked with cancer patients and found that in some of them the disease began at the same age at which one of the relatives died of cancer or died in an accident. Schutzenberger tried to find out if this was a pattern, and began to build genosociograms of her patients, it seemed that in almost every family there are events that affect the fate of subsequent generations. This observation formed the basis of the method of working with family heritage, which she called psychogenealogy. “The life of each of us is a novel. You, I, we are all entangled in an invisible web, false connections between generations can be seen, sympathized with or anticipated at least partially. But more often than not, we don’t talk about them: they are experienced as subtle, unconscious, unspoken, or secret. If we could better understand, hear, see repetitions and coincidences, the existence of each of us would become more clear. We would be more sensitive to who we are, who we were supposed to be. Are these invisible threads so strong, can we really avoid these repetitions? It is safe to say that in our lives we are less free than we think. However, we can win back our freedom and avoid repetition by understanding what is happening, by being aware of these threads. Only then can we finally live “our life” and not the life of our parents, or grandparents, or, for example, a deceased brother whom we “replaced” without realizing it. We can make our life correspond to what we want, our true desires, deepest dreams, needs, and not what ghosts from the past “want” us.
Imagine that you know mom-dad, grandparents on one side or the other, and that’s it. But there were other relatives who were born, lived, loved, died, aspired to something, thought, dreamed of something. Not only their genes live in you, but also their stories: they become a part of you at an unconscious level. Because those of your relatives who were familiar with them, were witnesses of their destinies, carry memories, which are then transmitted to you in a non-verbal, implicit form, and sometimes silently. But you do not have any specific information about a person, there is no image of him, but there is only the secret of a white or black spot. Or maybe it’s empty.
It’s all about the collective unconscious, which was discovered by Carl Gustav Jung. He believed that not everything in our life is determined by our personal history, there is also a collective experience that manifests itself in each of us. That is why sometimes we have dreams that have nothing to do with our lives. Have you ever dreamed of a war, for example, despite the fact that neither you nor your parents fought? If such dreams are repeated, it makes sense to think about why they come from where, what is in your family history that excites you at night.
Fear of heights or depths that has nothing to do with traumatic events in your life, goosebumps, chest tightness, heartaches, fear coming on – all these body signals, inexplicable and as if appearing from scratch, can also be associated with family history , kind, with traumas or myths. Or with big events in the history of the country, which, obviously, not a single Russian family managed to avoid. And the big (social) and small (family) past is always with us, it is not so easy for us to avoid its influence.
Jung writes about this in his Red Book: “These dead, not only your dead, but in general all the images of the forms that you took in the past, which the course of life has left behind, but also the accumulation of the dead of human history, the ghostly procession of the past, ocean compared to the drops of your life span. I see on the other side of you, on the other side of the mirror of your eyes, a breakthrough of dangerous shadows, dead, greedily looking through your empty eye sockets, groaning and hoping to collect through you all that is lost in the centuries that sighs in them. Your ignorance proves nothing. Put your ear to this wall and you will hear the rustle of their processions.
Schutzenberger proposes to analyze from three to five generations of a family. The 20th century is revolutions, wars, repressions, mass migrations… There are no archives left, it is almost impossible to find traces. In addition, for a long time it was not customary to talk about absent fathers, divorces, and everything that in one way or another could “disgrace” the family. Therefore, relatives literally took some secrets with them to the grave, but this does not mean that they do not affect us.
A “surrogate” child who was born after the death of his brother or sister. Conceiving and giving birth to him, parents are very much immersed in a traumatic story, which is usually not voiced to a growing baby. And the “new” child from the very beginning grows up in a situation of difficult experiences, depression, sadness, completely not understanding what this is connected with. In addition, it is loaded with parental expectations, projections and fantasies that were directed towards the lost child. The image of “that” son or “that” daughter seems to be superimposed on the living one.
You can take a simpler example: instead of the expected boy, a girl is born. Or vice versa. A child of the “wrong sex” always feels out of place, it can be very difficult for him to figure out who he is, what he wants, why he came to this earth, that is, to form his own identity, first at the external, and then at the deep level. Usually it is difficult for such people to live, find a business / profession, choose a partner, form a gender identity. Do they need to solve the mystery of their birth? Of course yes. This will make life much easier.
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It is believed that the lives and destinies of people are influenced by their ancestors. The way an ancestor lived, the way they died and what they left behind.
It is believed that the lives and destinies of people are influenced by their ancestors. The way an ancestor lived, the way they died and what they left behind. Ancestor worship is a form of religious practice in which descendants revere deceased family members as spirits who can intercede on their behalf with God or other deities to help them in life.
